Tuesday, August 06, 2013

Happy Birthday Elijah

Today it is your birthday, you are 7 years old!  You are awesome. 
Saturday we had a family party with Golden Corral for dinner.  Sunday you were Baptized.  Yesterday we spent the day with Gracyn, Cody and Brandi at the Water Park.  It was your first time and it was so much fun.

You love reading (especially with an incentive).  You like Wimpy Kid books and Magic Treehouse books.  You also have been reading Narnia with daddy but got irritated when he didn't read the last chapter of Dawn Treader, so you did it yourself.  You definitely read better than the average 7 year old!

You love Skylanders.  We had a light up skylanders cake for your birthday and you got Spyro Adventure and Giants for your brand new DS for your birthday.  You gto skylanders PJS, a blanket, a lunchbox and thermos and backpack and a notebook all with Skylanders on it. 

You love friends.   You remember Joel and Dylan from Wilson and are still fiercly loyal to those friendships.  You love Declan and John even though you don't see them often.  You are outgoing and seem to make friends and buddies no matter where you go--school, Awana's or church.  It is great that you can have so much fun with kids you just met.

You love being active--camps, VBS. . .it doesn't matter.  You also like having time with just one of us parents.  Special time of just you.

You can ride a bike with no training wheels. 

You are psyched to start soccer in the Fall.

You love your sisters but Lydia drives you absolutely nuts.  Bethany is definitely your favorite.

You are such a helper.  If I ask you to do chores (Except feeding the cat--you hate to feed the cat) you happily oblige.  You also sometimes look for things that need to be done like making the beds or clearing the table and just do it.  I love that about you.

You are so responsible.  I know if I tell you something and explain rules I can expect you to follow them.  You will also tell me others ARENT following the rules.

You want to be an artist/illustrator and illustrate your own children's stories when you grow up.  You can spend hours drawing.  You prefer drawing to anything else like craft or paint.  You love "How to Draw" books with the step by step instructions on them.

You love to build with Legos or Duplo blocks.  You can follow really complicated instructions.  You love it when the lego magazine comes and you have new projects. 

You are just generally an awesome, well mannered kid.  Most everyone talks about how wonderful you are (Especially your teachers and Sunday School Teachers) because you are happy, outgoing, cheerfull and follow directions/rules without questioning them.  We love you!!

Saturday, June 29, 2013

Elijah's Wish List

-Wimpy Kid Books (4, 5, 6, 7, and up?)
-Skylanders Elements: Magic and Tech
-Skylanders Giants: Official Strategy Guide
-Skylanders Universe: Mad Libs

-Skylanders Giants Lunch Box (we have the backpack already)
-Skylanders Giants Thermos Bottle

-Skylander-Hot Dog
-Skylander-Fright Rider
-Skylander-Slam Bam

-Sketch Pad/Art Stuff
-PJ's (size 8/10) in Ninjago or Skylanders theme
-How to Draw books..jungle animals specifically

Tuesday, March 19, 2013


Elijah was praying tonight . . for his brother.  A brother he doesn't have.  A brother he seems so sure he is going to get.  How has God put this so wholly on his heart?  With no input from me.

My heart is aching.  Breaking.  I see foster kids, orphans . . . tons of kiddos with no family.  I would love to have a huge family.  I would love to have another 3 or 4 kids.  I just don't want to grow my own, I want to adopt them.

What's stopping me?  Well, I am a half.  A half of a whole marriage.  A mom and a dad must be both committed to be on board.  I don't know how to bring it up.  I am scared of his reaction.  I am scared he wouldn't be equally burdened and it would cause a widening of the rift that is already formed in our marriage.

I don't know how to explain this deep yearning.  I also know that we will probably meet with opposition from our family and from others.  Adopting more kids would take away from the three we already have, the only grandchildren on each side.  This child-centered culture would see that there would be no way to provide dance lessons or gymnastics or extra cirriculars for all of them. . . I would have as much time with each of them. . . Well, I've alread realized my kids are an idol.  I would welcome some more distraction from them in the form of more children to love.  I think it would be great for them to realize that they have it great and to knock them down a couple of notches.  I would love to teach humility and compassion to my children. 

I am feeling such a calling for more children.  Every time I see the empty seat in the car or at the dining room table I think about Elijah's brother.  Seriously.  Every time.  It is crazy.  IT is crazy because some days I feel as if I am completely overwhelmed with life anyway.  The laundry, the cooking, the cleaning, the training up of my three that I do have.

I am also feeling led to avoid the baby stage and head straight for the 5 and 6 year old set.  A ready playmate for Elijah.  I don't like the baby phase.  I am scared though.  I think about all that my son has been through in his 6 years.  I would have missed all that.  What traumas will the child have to work though?  Will he love me? 

Selfish.  Selfish.  That is how I feel.  I might have to deal with behaviors and attitudes but that child had to endure them, not me. 

So I will pray.  I will beg.  I will plead.  Lord, please cause my husbands heart to ache with the need for another son.  Lord please cause my children's hearts to ache with the need for another brother.  Help us all to be happy to sacrifice for this child.  Lord even now, you know what the future holds.  If we are meant to get another son, please send people to love him and influence him for you.  Prepare his heart for our family and prepare our hearts for him.

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Happy Birthday Lydia

  • You love gymnastics and want to be on team so bad.  We got you a mat for your birthday after you practiced your handstands for 3 hours on a couple of Satudays.  We were worried you would break your feet on the hardwoods.
  • Your favorite movie is McKenna. 
  • You love to be the center of attention.  You constantly talk to make sure someone is paying attention to you.  If there is a chance to speak in front of people you practically jump out of your seat to do it.  You know no strangers--you will talk to just about anyone anywhere if I give you the go-ahead nod.
  • You can ride a two wheeler
  • Your favorite food was beets for a long time.  You still like them a lot but your new favorite is mashed potatoes.  You also really like Wendy's cheeseburgers with tomato and bacon ONLY.
  • You can be absolutely vicious when you don't get your way.  You will pinch, bite, hit, scratch . . but only when you think you won't get caught.  When you do get caught it is waterworks from you and you are so embarassed.  Not repentant, but embarassed.
  • You want to be the boss of your sister so much.  You are constantly correcting her and bossing her.  You LOVE it when you guys play "Mommy/Daughter" because she is always the baby and you are always the mommy. 
  • You know we love you but I think you are a little insecure.  You are not very affectionate at all.  You don't like hugs and kisses and stuff in general.  BUT if you feel like you are in trouble it is all hanging all over my neck, giving me kisses etc. to try and make up for it.
  • You know 29 sounds and are able to read the first three sets of the BOB books.
  • You can tell time and know all your numbers.
  • You know the books of the bible (ALL 66 of them!), your months, days of the week, and continents and oceans.
  • You are thrilled that you get to start kindergarten in the Fall.
  • You are trying tonight to go without a diaper for the first time overnight.
  • You stopped sucking your thumb about 4 months ago!
  • You can zip zippers, tie your own shoelaces (even brother can't do that!), button buttons, do your belt and get your sister dressed even if she wants to wear tights. 
  • You hate to have things in your hair.
  • You love to wear makeup and have your face painted.
  • Purple is your favorite color.
  • You hate milk with a passion.  You only tolerate it on your cereal.  You drink water 99% of the time.
  • You love coffee "sweet and brown" with cream and sugar.
  • You hate coconut but like coconut oil. . . you say it smells "Beachy"
  • Your biggest challenge is backtalk.  You think you know the right way or know more about what is fair and you CONSTANTLY argue if you don't agree.  You also ALWAYS feel like you have to put in your two cents. 
  • I love that you aren't afraid to ask the reason behind something--you are always thinking.
  • You float off to "Lyddie-land" regularly . .  the line between your made up world (where McKenna calls you repeatedly on your non-working cell phone and Barbie's come to life) and your real life is amusing.  I am oftern curious why you never invented an imaginary friend.  You are so creative.  Your creative play is amazing.
  • You LOVE to read stories.  You still don't have much attention for TV, but you will wit with me for hours listening to stories.
  • You are one of the best cutters in the house--you absolutely rock with a pair of scissors.  Brother asks you to help HIM sometimes.

We love you!

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Two Wheelin IT

Hopefully I will add pics and a video tomorrow when I go upstairs to that computer--

Lydia Grace.

3 weeks away from her 5th birthday.

She wants a trophy more than anything.  I told her that there was a trophy to be earned if she could learn to ride a two wheeler while she was still four years old.  Ohhhh . . that sneaky mama!  I figured any little girl with enough balance to do a handstand could surely ride a bike with no problems.

She ditched the training wheels last Monday.  My poor back!  We tried for about an hour on Monday to learn without the wheels.  A couple of pedal whacks to the legs and she was ready to quit.  Why do they put those darned spikes on the pedals anyway???  She was obsessed with the trophy though.  We even looked online to find some that she would like to keep her excitement and motivation up. 

It was a cold and rainy couple of days so I brought the bike inside.  Back and forth from the playroom to the kitchen.  Again and again and again.  Never really finding her balance for more than a couple of pedals.  The trophy ever present in her mind.  She wanted it, could almost feel it in her hands.  Her urgency heightened by the countdown chain suspended from the pillar . . counting down until her birthday.

Today, it was wonderful outside.  Nice and warm, sunny.  We had to miss church because the three kiddos and I are snotty and getting over colds.  What a great day to try again.  Her first mount she went about 20 feet before falling.  I quickly ran inside to get daddy and the camera to witness her debut as a two-wheel riding little girl.  She was amazing.  By the end of the afternoon she was easily pedaling around the culdesac. 

All that is left to master is the art of braking and getting started from a stop.  She'll have that down by the end of the week I am sure. 

We ordered the trophy today.  The purple column, the little golden plaque.  She is so excited for it to get here.

My 4 year old.

A bike rider.

I am amazed.

Thursday, February 14, 2013


Good grief--the funny things these kiddos say . . .

Elijah is learning the 23rd Psalm for Awana and  he said:

"You ignite my head with oil, my cup runs over"
Um . .  "ANNOINT" dear son :)

Lydia had put a bunch of toys all over and was hopping and skipping around them.  I asked her what she was doing and she said he was running her "Ox-table" course. 

Then today in the car, the girls were signing along to a song and had this conversation . .
Bethany: "Jesus wants me for a sun-bean?  What is a sun-bean?"
Lydia: "It is like a green bean, only it is the yellow one."
Bethany: "If Jesus wanted me to be a bean, he would have made me one.  I am a wittle girl."
Lydia: "Well, maybe the singer just got it wrong then. . . "

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

School Take 2

Here is the LONG of it :)

November or so it became pretty clear that I am worshipping my children and not God.  They have become an idol.  I know they are important, I should invest in them . . . but I am doing so to the exclusion of my faith, myself (when is the last time I worked out??) and my husband.  Not good.  We pretty much came to the decision that God was leading us to put the children in school.  Since there are no lotteries or options availalbe halfway through the year we decided to apply for Elijah's 2nd grade and Lydia's K year of school and just continue homeschooling. 

There are a lot of options.  We didn't want to be driving again so that limited it somewhat, but still, between Charter schools, magnet schools and traditional vs. year round, there are a lot of options.  Add that to the fact that there are normally less than 3 spots open at any given school for the 2nd grade.  Couple that with the fact that we are trying to lottery into one of those three spots AND lottery in a kindergarter.  UGH!!  We asked on Sunday for prayer from our small group for wisdom and clear guidance about where we needed to put the children.  I have also been praying that we would be able to put them at the same school.

All of the Charters (Research Triangle and Voyager) state that those on the current waiting list (which we were) would be removed over the holiday break and no spots would be offered.  When nothing came up over the holiday we were slightly disappointed (we were only #3 on Research Triangles list!) but we expected it.

Today, while I was numb from getting a filling repaired, driving home, my phone rang.  I answered and it was Research Triangle Charter offering Elijah a spot in their 1st grade.  BUT, we only had 24 hours to decide or they would offer it to the next child on the list.  SERIOUSLY??  24 hours to ditch all of the planning, homeschool cirriculum, BRAND NEW BOOKS WE STARTED ON MONDAY??!!??  Seriously God?  NOW?? 

Alas--it is God's timing not mine.  I wouldn't have signed him up for a Lego class (which he loves), agreed to teach enrichment Tuesday afternoons (since it is going to make pickup a nightmare), written in the brand new math and reading and phonics books we just started (which I could have sold new--but now the first four lessons are done in them). . . and it is so fast.  Such a big change.

But this afternoon we went to see it in person and Elijah was trying so very hard to hate it.  He was sullen and determined not to like it.  But in the end the only dislike he could come up with was that "It isn't Kestrel Heights" and he is shy and nervous.  Pretty much those negatives will be applied to any and every school.  He also had a huge list of things he DID like.  Music to a mama's ears.  Before bed when I asked him what he hoped we would decide he said: "I hope you decide to at least let me give it a good try."

So here it is . . . tomorrow Elijah will report at 8am for testing and Monday he will start at the Research Triangle Charter Academy as a 1st grader.  This weekend is going to be a mess of getting uniforms, finding all black shoes, a belt (and practice with the belt!) and filling up the school supply list. 

Wow.  AND because he is a current student, that lottery I was fretting over, not a problem.  He gets a spot and his sister gets a spot because they have sibling preference.